How To Help An Alcoholic Friend

Have you ever though to yourself "my friends drink too much"? Read on to learn about how you can help an alcoholic friend and get them suitable forms of support and treatment in order to get their alcoholism under control.

If you are wondering how to help an alcoholic friend, you first need to determine whether your friend truly needs help and whether he or she is ready to accept help. Educating yourself is another step on the path to knowing how to deal with an alcoholic friend and be able to give them the support they need. Once your friend decides to seek help for his or her addiction, you should be ready to offer help and make recommendations about treatment programs.

How to Tell If Your Friend is An Alcoholic

If you find yourself occasionally thinking “My friend drinks too much” or “I think my friend is an alcoholic,” this could be a sign that your friend’s drinking has crossed into the realm of alcohol abuse. Having an occasional drink is not a problem, but if your friend is drinking heavily or seems to be unable to control how much he or she drinks, these are symptoms of alcohol abuse or alcoholism. If your friend becomes violent when drinking, drives while drunk, or drinks at inappropriate times, these behaviors also indicate a problem.

Educating Yourself About Alcoholism

In order to figure out how to deal with an alcoholic friend and get them the much needed help and support, you first must learn about alcoholism and alcohol abuse. The more you know about the signs and symptoms of alcoholism, the easier it will be for you to spot problem behaviors in your friend. It is also a good idea to learn about treatment options, alcohol withdrawal symptoms, and how to tell the difference between alcoholism and alcohol abuse. You might also want to attend a support group for people who care for an alcoholic, such as Al-Anon.

Considering Getting Help for Alcoholism?

Here are some links that can teach you more and help you get started.

Confronting Alcohol Abuse

Starting an aggressive confrontation that puts the alcoholic on the defensive doesn’t help an alcoholic friend. Before talking to your friend about his or her drinking, talk to a counselor or psychologist about what you plan to say. You might also want to get other friends involved who also want to help the alcoholic. One possible approach is to tell your friend that you spoke to a therapist about his or her alcohol use because you are worried about it. This gives your friend the chance to think about the problem and realize that it is harming others.

How to Help Others Struggling with Alcohol

Setting Limits

An important part of helping an alcoholic friend is setting limits within the friendship. If you let your friend’s behavior impact your life or make excuses for your friend’s drinking, your friend may be less able to recognize the problem and less likely to seek help. Determine the boundaries you will live by and stick to them, even if your alcoholic friend gets angry. Reasonable limits include refusing to lie for your friend about his or her drinking, refusing to supply your friend with alcohol, and refusing to engage in arguments when your friend is drunk. It is especially important not to do things for your friend that he or she should be handling himself or herself. If you do things to save your friend from the consequences of alcoholism, it could take your friend much longer to reach the point where he or she is willing to seek help.

How to Help An Alcoholic Friend

If your friend agrees that he or she has a problem, but is unsure how to stop drinking, you can help your friend by discussing potential solutions.

Below are a few ways to help a friend struggling with alcoholism or what to do when your friend drinks too much.

  • Learn about addiction to become better informed on the disease and what the person may be going through.
  • Talk to a professional such as your primary care physician or an addiction specialist to learn ways on how to discuss the situation with your friend.
  • Choose a time to talk to you friend when they are sober and ideally in a comfortable setting in which they feel safe.
  • Set boundaries with them. While you can’t make them quit drinking, it is important to protect yourself from the negative consequences of their behavior.
  • Practice self-care and know that their decision to either continue or stop drinking isn’t something you can control. Be patient with them and yourself.

It is a good idea to also have some information on hand about treatment centers and how treatment for alcoholism works so that you can help your friend understand the process. You might also want to ask your friend how you can be of support. This might involve driving the friend to a treatment center or to an AA meeting. It could also mean helping the alcoholic with daily errands or tasks while he or she is in rehab. To learn more about how to help an alcoholic friend, call us for a free, confidential referral.

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